If I were 22 again I would tell myself, “Life has so many graduations for you. Enjoy this one from University and know there will be many more ahead!” I would want to take the pressure, which I personally placed on my own shoulders, off – so I could enjoy all the moment had to […]
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Good Grief
“You know quite well, deep within you, that there is only a single magic, a single power, a single salvation… and that it is called loving. Well, then, love your suffering. Do not resist it, do not flee from it. It is your aversion that hurts, nothing else.” ~hermann hesse Grief has sculpted me over […]
Hurdles – Present and Past
I have a thirsty fish in methat can never find enough of what it’s thirsty for!~ Rumi This was my father. He passed away 5 days ago. He was 75 and I loved him very much and I know he loved me. And even though I have 2 years experience in the grief department and because I […]
Pumpkin Bread
He loved Pumpkin Bread. He loved a lot of specific things. He knew what he liked because after much living and much thinking about living he made a point to extract the wheat from the chaff. He knew by practical experimentation which things worked best and he held tight to those things. So I always […]
Perfectly Imperfect!!
Yes – it feels good to see how life is unfolding warts and all; to generate appreciation for a stubbed toe or a missed class. There are six pots in my second story window box and one is not getting water due to an out-of-joint drip line. So a little dry brown sprig of dead Asparagus […]
Follow the Sun
Making your new best life fit in with whatever is happening right now can be a very organic motion. It is as natural as a flower reaching it’s head toward the morning sun – and then following the sun throughout the day until dusk.Your conscious intention is the sunlight to which you will naturally turn […]
The Hard Work of Feeling
“…establish that role to be a listener to the mystery…” ~ ram dass I have been caught again by my own tear ducts. They have felt the need to do what they do and I have to decide if I want to let them do it. Not fully appreciating that in letting them have their […]
Don’t Be Alarmed
Don’t be alarmed. A poem written at a time of strong feeling is a good thing…for me. It expresses itself so I can get on with the day. This to shall pass. Desolation Parched, cracked and dry. Formidable aching crunches me into tiny pieces like sand. Alone, without, encumbered, unfrequented and grief stricken. Near the rim […]
Happiness is a Choice
“Happiness can be cultivated” says Shawn Achor, author of Before Happiness. He calls it Happiness Hygiene and says it is as essential to living as brushing our teeth and eating right. Here are 5 Two Minute Happiness Drills which Achor’s research has proven to actually have the power to make us happier people. His work […]
The Bigger Picture May Be Hard to Swallow
“It’s like Mahatma Gandhi gets put in jail and they give him a lice-infested uniform and tell him to clean the latrines, and it’s a whole mess. And he walks up to the head of the guards and he says, in total truth, “Thank you.” He’s not putting them on or up-leveling them. He’s saying, […]
McGee, Keats & Chödrön on Transformation
“What hurts us can cripple us, but it can also shape us into something more powerful. But this requires presence. It requires having a different perspective about what it means to hurt and what it means to experience emotional trauma. One way to change our perspective is to look at our wounds as sacred things. […]
Heartbreak
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” ~Mark Twain It is real – the root of the thing. But is made distant by the everything else. I am creative and powerful Yet I cannot shun the weight of it It is cornered – me and it together Win […]
